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This is, in my opinion, one of the more important books dealing with anal sex that you can buy or read.
In The Surrender: An Erotic Memoir Toni Bentley shares with us how, through anal sex, she experienced more than simply sexual bliss. She experienced first hand the metaphysical state of complete surrender.
Through being fucked in the ass by a strong cock, she was able to let go of her anger, her resentment of men God and her father.
Toni describes how in that moment of having a cock in your ass, she cannot, could not, think about or be anything but that very moment. She can be only present, in the here and now, completely engaged in the experience.
In such a state, you can completely let go of everything that separates you from your inner self, from your partner, and from God.
And so, anal sex can be the “gateway” to spiritual and personal transformation, through what in the east may be called the annihilation of the ego, and living fully in the now.
This is not a how to guide. It’s a celebration of the ecstasy of surrender, experienced through anal sex.
Here are a few choice quotes from the opening chapter of this book:
“I am sitting on the threshold. Perhaps this is the final paradox of God’s paradoxical machinations: my ass is my very own back door to heaven. The Pearly Gates are closer than you think.”
“Bliss, I learned from being sodomized, is an experience of eternity in a moment of real time”
“Sodomy is the ultimate sexual act of trust”
“I am an atheist by inheritance. I cam to know god experientially, from being fucked in the ass…”
“I’ve learned so much, maybe the thing of most importance, from being fucked in the ass – how to surrender”
“Being fucked in the ass gives me hope. Despair hasn’t got a chance when his cock is in my ass, making room for God.”
Mistake #1 - Surprising Her With It (Trying To Slide It In Unexpectedly)
So there you are having vaginal sex, both you and your girlfriend are into it, and then you suddenly try to slide it into her ass.
With no warning like that, it’s probably going to be shocking and painful for her. So not only did you send her the message that anal sex hurts, she’s not going to trust you as much.
And that’s the biggest key to getting her to enjoy having anal sex with you, trust.
Now how is it going to go down next time you try to get her to have anal sex with you? I guarantee it’s going to be harder.
Mistake #2 - Pressuring Her
She needs to know and feel that you love sex with her in all it’s forms. That she’s a marvelous lover who keeps you satisfied. If you continually try to pressure her into anal sex, you send the message “I’m not satisfied, I need something else”.
This will only create resistance in her.
Instead, your goal is to make her want it to much that she’s asking you for anal sex. Doesn’t that sound better?
I’ll explain how to do that in a future post.
Mistake #3 - No Foreplay
Just like her pussy here.
The more aroused she is, the wetter her pussy gets, and the more her pussy is ready for your cock.
It’s the same with her ass. It doesn’t get wet, but it does get excited, more receptive to being touched, caressed and even penetrated.
The more foreplay, the better your chances of anal sex and the better it will be.
Mistake #4 - Forcing It In
Most guys get too excited. They shove it in too far too quickly.
This doesn’t feel good to her.
You’ve got to be gentle. Once you do get to the point where she’s ready to have your cock in her ass, give it too her a tiny bit at a time. Once you’re in a little bit, stop. Give her (and her ass) time to adjust to the fullness and accept that much of your cock before giving her a little more.
Mistake #5 - Being Too Rough
Unless she’s a seasoned pro, there’s almost no chance she’s going to like her ass treated roughly.
The anus and rectal walls are very thin, and much more delicate than the vagina. They easily tear and abrade. You’ve got to use tons of lube, and always, always be gentle.
So take your time, listen to her. Pay attention to her body. Be gentle and be patient.
Would it surprise you that mystics in India have practiced anal sex for thousands of years as part of their spiritual training?
It’s true.
An ancient tradition in Tantra teaches that the anus is a highly erogenous zone, which is directly linked to the base chakra. And within the base chakra resides the kundalini, the “serpent of fire”.
The kundalini is a coiled energy, that in most people kind of “sits” there, unawakened. When awakened this energy can be channeled up the spine, igniting and opening all the chakras. This will give you much more power, insight, clarity, focus, sense of purpose, even a greater sense of peace and love. Yes it will effect every part of your life. It is in fact a necessary step on the road to enlightenment.
There are many methods in yoga to arouse the kundalini, such as rythmicly relaxing and contracting of the anus, bouncing on the ground on your butt, etc.
Ah but Tantra…There is a tantric method of arousing the kundalini which is powerful, fast and direct. Anal sex.
There is a thin gland that resides within the anal cavity, the tip of which ends just a few inches inside the anus. This is, according to tantric teachings, the kundalini gland.
Anyone who has ever had sex knows that there is tremendous energy raised and released during sex. Think about the excitement, the heat, the sweating, movement, thrusting, clawing, moaning, etc, etc. And think about orgasm? Tremendous explosions, sometimes nuclear right? And guys, think about how much energy explodes through your penis when you come?
Imagine this energy going right into, awakening and merging with your lovers kundalini, nourishing it and setting it ablaze…
And it’s not only the pure ‘energy’ of sex that can awaken the kundalini. There is tremendous power, energy, in semen. Think about it, it’s literally the stuff of life, isn’t it? When the man ejaculates, the energy, and nutrients of the semen can be absorbed by the woman. It will nourish the kundalini gland and the chakra itself…
As you can imagine, there is a whole world more to say about anal sex, sex, kundalini, awakening, etc.
In this article I’m going to talk about the power of anal sex to help us let go of anger, be free from frustration and heal old wounds in general.
Have you ever wondered about the power of our sex lives to help us overcome emotional baggage and other issues?
We all know that sex is powerful. And we’ve all (at least I hope) experienced times when we’ve had sex that helped us overcome or deal with some major issue we were struggling with.
Anal sex has its own special healing and transforming power. Part of the reason for this is the way the body stores emotion and emotional baggage.
All memory is stored throughout the body. Trauma, pain, etc, and all negative emotions are stored in the body as tension.
If you release the tension, the negative emotion or pain goes away as well.
Obviously a lot of negative crap gets stored in the ass. Having anal sex is a great way to massage out that tension and get rid of all that emotional baggage, whatever it is.
Ever had a gnarly knot or cramp in your neck or maybe high in your back around your shoulder blades? I have. Did you go to a masseuse and maybe have it worked out? The whole reason it hurt was simply tension. When you relax that muscle, let go of the tension that pain or discomfort is gone. And that was the masseuse helped you to do.
When she puts pressure on that gnarly spot that was causing you pain, in that moment you can’t focus on anything else in the world but the pressure on that spot. That focus kind of causes you to let go of everything else at least for that moment. You become very present. And that pressure, kneading and massaging it forces the muscle to relax.
And here’s an important point to get; when the muscle relaxes you’re not just letting go of that muscle tension, but the issue itself that was causing the tension.
So it is with anal sex. We often hold so much tension in our asses. Tension that isn’t just tension, but some issue. Anger maybe, stress, frustration, repression, even sadness or… you name it.
And just like the masseuse on your neck or back, with someone caressing, massaging, and pressing into and penetrating your ass, you can let go of anything else but that moment, that experience and sensation. And as you relax, as you let go and open up your ass to more and more pressure and penetration, at the same time you’re letting go of whatever emotions and issues you were holding onto.
And so, anal sex, anal play and penetration can be a wildy pleasurable and powerful way to let go, to relax and to heal.
I’ve only scratched the surface here, there’s a lot more to say, so expect follow up articles to this.
I hope you got something of pleasure, value and maybe something unexpected from this post. Please leave any comments or questions. I’m always happy to get them!
“The will to surrender and the will to self mastery are the head and the tail of the same snake” – C.S. Hyat
Gentle readers, surrender lies at the heart of being fully orgasmic, knowing who you are, and being satisfied with life.
So many of us go through our lives unsatisfied, always craving, looking for what we think is love, or substituting sex for love.
At the heart of this state of not being satisfied is the inability to surrender.
There’s often this fear of surrender, that somehow you must not surrender to retain your “self”. The truth is you can’t ever really loose your “self”, it’s hard wired in.
The biggest reason I write about anal sex, is it’s such an act of deep surrender, and can be a life affirming blissful experience…
This post is a draft. There is much more to say and it needs to be said right. Feel free to comment and or leave questions.
“He (or she) who realizes the truth of the body can then come to know the truth of the universe.” – Rat Nas Tantra
Ever heard the saying “As above, so below”? Or what about “The macrocosm is in the microcosm”. These concepts were both taught by the great Hermes of ancient Egypt.
The idea has many applications, one of which is that your body (and soul) is a mirror, or replica of the universe. And so you can come to understand the universe through exploring your very own body.
One of the reasons I write about anal sex is it’s a way of experiencing a part of our bodies, a part of our selves that is hardly explored enough, much less understood.
Our sexual nature is intimately and powerfully a part of who we are.
We all know of our oral drive, our oral need. We all need to connect to each other with our mouths. We kiss each others lips, slide our tongues against each others, suck on each others nipples and breasts, bite, nibble, kiss and lick our lover’s curves and crevices, and we suck and lich each other’s pussies and cock’s sometimes to exhaustion.
In this way, orally we experience ourselves and each other.
And of course we know of our genital need. We need to have our pussies and cocks given attention, to be adored, lavished, worshipped. We need to connect with, to revel in each other through our genitals. In this way also, we come to know and experience ourselves and each other.
It’s the same with our asses. We need our asses to be worshipped, touched, lavished, adored, felt really felt, kissed, licked, penetrated. We need to know our asses and have them known. We need to experience love, ourselves and our lovers through our asses as much as every other way.
It’s simply a truth of the body, a fact of bio-physiology and our sexual nature. And part of the structure of our ‘universe’, our reality.
For too long some religions have told us that the flesh is sinful. This is a lie, it is not sinful.
The definition of sin is ’separation’. The opposite of course is ‘connection’.
Tell me, when you have your cock buried deep into your lover’s waiting pussy, her legs clinched around your waist, say, or your man’s hot and hard cock slowly penetrating your ass as he lies atop you, are you experiencing separation or connection?
Of course this is connection.
Gentle readers, revel in your bodies. Experience each moment and experience each other fully. The truth is in the eternity of each moment. The truth is in your bodies.
One of my readers asked me how she can have orgasms from anal sex if she’s worried about experiencing pain.
This is a great question so, I thought I would answer part of this for everyone.
Now assuming you’re using plenty of lube, and assuming you’re with a partner you can trust, and assuming you’re taking it slow enough for your body to adjust to it…
Thinking about pain with regard to anal sex is a great example of a self fulfilling prophesy. Another way of putting it is you are creating your own reality.
Remember any pain from anal sex is usually caused from tension in the anus. If you tense up, it’s not going to be comfortable. If you relax, it’s great…
The process goes something like this: You got afraid it was going to hurt, so you constricted the muscles around your anus, which made it tight, which made it hurt. So you really kind of created the pain.
Here’s what you need to do to to turn this around and make anal sex pain free and purely pleasurable, to create the pleasure: You let go of the fear, (surrender), and so you relax, and also become more aroused and in the moment, both of which cause your anus to be much looser, and so there’s no pain. Just anal sex pleasure.
Part of the great pleasure of anal sex is that it teaches you how to let go, to relax and surrender to the moment. Which make all sex better not just anal sex. In fact, it would make your whole life better!
One more reason to enrich our sex lives with anal sex!
Have you seen the products that promise to desensitize your anus to make anal sex easier?
They come in creams and gels, and what happens is you put it on and it makes the area numb.
Do they work? Yeah they do. But here’s my advice.
If you use them, be very careful!
You see, the anus is naturally very sensitive. Some doctors say the anus even has more nerve endings than the vagina. It’s partly this sensitivity that makes anal sex potentially feel so good.
If you ‘desensitize’ yourself, you’re missing out on part of the exquisite pleasure.
But even more importantly it’s also a delicate part of our bodies. When you engage in any anal play, you need to pay close attention to your body. It can be easy to damage your delicate skin if you or your partner get real excited, start getting really vigorous, take it too fast etc.
If you’re feeling less or not enough, you can easily hurt yourself.
So you need to feel. You need to know what’s going on down there. For your own well being and the health of your butt.
But besides, the whole point of anal sex is to feel it. If you are going to be numb you might as well not be there. In fact, the whole point of any sex is to really feel it, isn’t it?
So my advice, don’t do anything that makes you feel less, or God forbid, numb. Instead, immerse yourself in the feelings, gobble up every bit of the experience. In everything, and certainly in anal sex.
All women are not cut from the same cloth, but the ideas below definitely apply to most women, and people in general.
Is your girlfriend or wife not interested enough to try anal sex with you yet? Here are three pointers you should think about.
#1 – You need to focus on her pleasure. Why do you want to have anal sex? Take a moment answer that for yourself. If it’s mostly for your own pleasure, what that’s going to do is create resistance in her. You don’t want resistance, you want rapport. Imagine how much more rapport you’ll have with her, and how much easier getting into anal sex will be if she knows you’re all about pleasing her…especially when it come to anal play.
Anal sex can be absolutely incredible for her, totally mind blowing. And it’s that that you need to be thinking about and make your focus. Who could resist that, right?
Plus if it’s not about her pleasure for you, you won’t be “getting” her. You need to be very aware of how she’s responding to you on all levels, physically, emotionally, etc and make adjustments.
#2 – Build trust. A lot of resistance many women have to anal sex is simply fear, mostly fear that it’s going to hurt. And here’s the deal, if you pay close enough attention to her, go slow enough for her, stop if she need you to, and generally ease her into it, it won’t hurt, it’ll be great.
But she needs to know that you’ll do all of that for her. She needs totally trust you. And that trust has to be built up, simply put.
#3 – She needs to feel respected and honored. There is sometimes this idea that anal sex is somehow a dirty act. And that somehow she’ll be less respectable if she has anal sex.
This comes in part from the way that anal sex is usually portrayed. What you often see is a man kind of “subjecting” a woman to anal sex, and not so much “pleasing her” with anal sex or sharing anal pleasure with her.
Imagine how different it would be if the man want to share anal sex with her because he wants to please her, because he revels in the entirety of her body and her feminine self, and because he wants the both of them to feel the depth the special and intimate connection lovers can have through anal sex.
Do you think would be more appealing to most women? You bet.
Do you want to make your lover (or yourself) have orgasms from anal sex?
There is a lot I have to say about this, but I think you’ll find the following approach to be a hell of a lot of fun, and I guarantee it works.
What you want to do is “tie” your lover’s orgasms to the sensation, and the idea, of being anally penetrated and stimulated. In hypnosis and NLP this process is called “anchoring”. You get your lover’s (or your own) body to connect anal stimulation and or penetration to the state of orgasm.
So here’s what you do. First off, you don’t want to be stimulating your lover’s ass directly (especially penetration) when she or he is not allready really aroused. Get her aroused first, wether that means good old fashioned lovemaking, or oral sex, or, touching, teasing, fantasy, all of the above or whatever. The longer the better, really build it up.
When she’s really hot, really worked up and maybe 3/4 of the way towards orgasm, only then start to tease her ass. Save the penetration though.
Keep building her arousal while you tease her ass on the outside with your fingers, a toy or whatever feels the most fun. And then when she’s right about to come, only then penetrate her (the first few times you do this, you probably only want to penetrate her a tiny bit, very shallow).
If you do this consistently, (and this is key) every time you have sex, she can start to come from anal penetration alone in as little as a couple of days to a couple of weeks, though it’s possible for it to take longer.
Don’t become goal oriented though. Enjoy the process, be absorbed in every moment.
This works equally well for men as well as women by the way.
We just couldn’t have it, that’s what it would be! A good lubricant is an absolute must with anal sex.
So here are the three best anal lubes.
Astroglide, Astroglide Gel, Astroglide Silicone and Astroglide Anal Shooters.
I’ve used astroglide for years for anal sex. Developed by NASA for space missions, it’s sooo nice and slippery and lasts a very long time. Some people find it a little thin for anal sex, but I’ve never found that to be a problem. And that’s easily solved by using Astroglide Gel, which of course is a thicker gel like version. And the Anal Shooters of course were made just for anal sex. What they are is a little one use applicator, to put the lube right into the anus. How cool is that huh? One applicator and you’re ready for the whole night :)
There are four version of Astroglide:
Original water based. On the thin side, and containing glycerin. The original is what got Astroglide it’s many adoring fans
Water-based glycerin free. The same as the original but without the glycerin. I can’t tell the difference by feel.
Astroglide Gel. Formulated thicker for anal pleasure, this was my anal sex lube of choice for more than a year, and still a favorite.
Silicone. The silicone version of Astroglide is about the same thickness as original but, being silicone based, far outlasts it’s water based counterpart. This gives you the advantage of not having to stop the action to re-apply. Yo just can’t use it with silicone toys :(
Maximus
Maximus is a newer thick lube made (as far as I know) just for anal sex. From the same makers of Liquid Silk. Although newer it already has many devoted fans allready. It’s comparable to Astroglide gel, it’s really slippery, lasts a very long time without getting sticky. Also latex safe, and glycerin free like Astroglide.
Slippery Stuff Gel
This is the newest one I have tried. In fact, my lady and I just gave it a go this last weekend, and is definitely a winner. In fact, it’s awesome for anal sex. Thick enough to stay on and not drip, and very slick. It’s also glycerin free and tests have supposedly shown it to have just the right ph for anal sex. The only drawback is it dries relatively quickly being water based (though a little saliva, or other body juices keep it going). I highly recommend it.
Though there are many more, Astroglide and Maximus are easily the two best in my opinion.
I haven’t tried them all, partly since I started making my own some time ago. Time permitting, I’ll describe how to do that tomorrow.
A couple others that are also good are:
Adam and Eve Anal Lube
System JO Anal Lube (haven’t tried this one, though I hear it’s very good).
So there you have it, the three best anal lubes to help you in your anal sex adventures.
Anal sex is just one of those things: she either loves it, or she hates it. There is very little in between. Most women have tried it at some point, and a fair few of them will never dare again despite their hankering to be one of the “lucky ones” who love anal sex. The reason for this avoidance is clear: pain. If there was no pain, there was probably pleasure. Hence, love or hate.
It is true, however, that while you’re trying to “get it right” there are likely to be some painful moments, practice makes perfect and it’s the ability to maneuver oneself and try different styles that allows anal sex to be pleasurable.
We’ve decided to let you in on what women love and hate about anal sex so you can enter the situation sufficiently informed and ready to rock her world.
The Allure of Anal Sex
For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty and it provides some variety to normal sex. Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away: The taboo status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. Once tried, however, anal sex can quickly lose its appeal for women (and some men). Here we will discuss some of the reasons why women love and hate anal sex.
Why Does She Love Anal Sex?
Let’s start with the positives:
Because anal sex feels good
Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It’s different in sensation and it doesn’t feel like anything else she may have felt before — it’s deep inside, it’s not her clitoris and not her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.
Because anal sex is naughty
People love to be a little bit naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you can do completely privately, and nobody will ever know you were naughty except you and your partner — which is part of the fun. It is also often a “first time for everything” type of activity which can also be nice — doing something you’ve never done before, ever.
Why Does She Hate Anal Sex?
Now for what goes wrong:
Because anal sex hurts
Anal sex is not easy to master when you haven’t done it before. For a man it may seem straight forward — in, out — but it isn’t this simple. Women hate anal sex primarily because it hurts. It can cause cold sweats, shivers, extreme agony, and a massive chemical release into the blood stream that causes pain. This is highly unpleasant, but may be endured because A) She wants to like it; and B) She wants you to like it.
If you’re not very careful, if you don’t warm her up properly, if you don’t go slowly enough, you will probably hurt her. This really minimizes your chances for trying anal sex again. Do your best every time and you have at least a fighting chance at having another go.
Because she’s worried about a mess
Anal sex is obviously a hot spot for mess. The idea that you could penetrate her butt and come out in a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for her before it’s even happened, and for this reason she may avoid anal sex altogether. Women spend so much time making themselves look and smell beautiful that to have something ruin her hard work can be mildly devastating. Worrying about mess can be alleviated by using an anal douche before engaging in any anal play. Try taking a shower together too, and make sure her bowels are emptied at least an hour before starting.
Important Facts About Anal Sex
Lubricant is essential
The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant, so it is imperative that you use a good quality lubricant in all your anal adventures. It is advisable to use a silicon-based lubricant because they tend to last longer and don’t dry up very quickly like some water-based lubricants do. Don’t use sticky petroleum-based products like Vaseline, as they clog up the walls of the rectum and are much too sticky.
Tease Her
It is very important that she is very turned on before you even go near her butt. When she’s turned on, her body is much more open to you than if she is only mildly turned on. She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. Then, when you start to touch her closer to her anus, she will respond with moans and groans instead of a tense grimace. Rub her body all over with oils, relax her, love her, adore her, and caress her. Get her to the point where she is begging you for it, and do this without putting a single thing in her — tease, tease, tease. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools we have — use it to your advantage.
Condoms and hygiene
Disease can be passed through unprotected sex — this includes anal sex. The wall of the rectum is very thin and permeable. However, using condoms can be better for both partners, for other reasons. Women may not like to have a bottom full of semen, which quite frankly is a fair call. After the disruptions of anal sex, the semen mixes with the contents of the rectum and it can get a little “upset” in there. Using a condom avoids this trouble.
Condoms may also protect the penis from any stray fecal matter, though this is generally not a problem, and if it does occur can be washed off easily with no harm done. Men may like to wear a condom so they last a bit longer — the condom desensitizes the penis somewhat, and allows for longer lovemaking.
What Not to Do
Do not ever put your penis into a woman’s body without her express permission. Do not treat her body like a scoring device. She is not an object for you to ejaculate in or on, and if she is kind enough to share her beautiful butt with you, treat it with respect and be happy you were allowed close enough to breathe her in at all. Don’t ejaculate inside of her if requested not to. Don’t slam, jackhammer or be forceful either.
What to Always Do
Always use lube. Always wear a condom if requested to, without acting like a baby. Do as you are asked at all times — anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you.
Gender presumptions and anal sex
When a heterosexual couple thinks of anal sex, it is generally man-in-woman anal sex. To get a good understanding of what it’s like — and how to improve your performance — it is necessary and helpful for you to open your mind to the possibility that anal sex is not something that only you do to your female lover, but something that you could do to each other.
Scared yet? Don’t be. If it’s good for the goose, it’s good for the gander. Anal sex takes a lot of practice to perfect, and experimenting with one another is a fantastic way to deepen your connection and enhance your sex life and relationship. It does not have to involve sex toys. You can use fingers, tongues, oils, lubes, and any number of other things. Experiment, and let your own body be loved. It will pay off.
Backdoor Shenanigans
Anal sex is many things to many people. Do it right, and you’ll get to do it again. Do it wrong, and you may be doomed forever. Well, probably not forever but until she forgets how bad it was the first time around.
There are hundreds of anal sex guides online — explicit instructions on how to do it right. If you read at least a dozen of them, you’ll probably have a good idea about how to start off. The best piece of advice we can give you is to make sure she is hot for it before you start. Then you really can’t lose.
As promised, here is a great recipe to make your own anal lube at home.
This recipe is not my creation, I learned it from the book “Anal Sex for Couples” by Strong & Gammon, which by the way, I highly recommend, it’s a treasure trove.
Since trying this home made lube it’s easily become my favorite anal sex lube, you’re going to love it.
Since I know you’re eager for the how to, I’ll describe how to make it, then go over the benefits and drawbacks at the end.
What you’ll need.
Ingredients :
Vaseline (Note * the Vaseline brand is preferred over generic brands, but there’s not a dramatic difference)
Baby oil (Important Note * make sure the baby oil is mineral based, some generic brands are not)
Containers:
A Pyrex measuring cup. Pyrex is made to withstand heat (you’re going to heat the mixture), and the measuring graduations are going to come in handy.
Containers to put the finished product into, wide mouth and short is best. I prefer cleaned out glass jars with tight sealing lids.
What you do.
Place two ounces (approx) into the Pyrex measuring cup and heat in the microwave it until it turns to liquid. (Note: In place of using a microwave, you can place the Pyrex cup into a pot of water and boil the water). Now add one ounce of baby oil and heat again. You want to heat it until it is liquid enough to stir. The ideal proportions are about 2/3’s Vaseline to 1/3 baby oil.
Once the mixture cools close to room temperature, test with your fingers. Ideally it should be very slick, but still thick enough that it will not run off your fingers. If it’s too runny, just add some Vaseline and heat and remix, and vise versa if it’s too thick.
The benefits.
This homemade lube is practically perfect. When made right it’s just the perfect consistency, extremely slick and doesn’t drip.
It’s cheaper than store bought anal lubes.
I think it’s much better for your body, since pre-made lubes for the most part are filled with exotic complex chemicals that can’t be healthy for your sensitive body parts.
I’ve found it seems it will not wear off, it stays on keeps your anal play slippery for as long as you’d want it to.
You can adjust it to make it just the right consistency for your desires.
Draw backs.
You can’t use it with condoms, it will shred them. (most condoms anyway, I haven’t experimented with non-latex)
There you have it, perhaps the perfect recipe to make your very own home made anal lube!
So…I thought I would talk about giving a woman vaginal, clitoral and g-spot orgasms before moving on to her ass. After all we’re making love to the whole woman here. And it pertains to getting the most out of anal sex…
So I’m reprinting here this article by Gabrielle Moore, a fellow sex expert, because I found it to the point and quite good. She’s created quite a few guides and courses, which I recommend. You can find out more about her here.
Step 1
Engage in a lot of foreplay! Foreplay is very important because it helps her relax her mind and make her more focused on the lovemaking at hand. It’s also a great way to bond as many women associate foreplay as a man’s way of taking time and ensuring sex is not just a physical act but about intimacy.
Foreplay can start hours or even days in advance and is really limited only by your sexual imagination. As you keep this ‘sexual tension’ high, you’ll find that it’s actually easier to bring her to an orgasm once you do engage in sex.
Step 2
If foreplay is the ‘primer’, oral sex is the next big step. Many women actually claim that oral sex is the ONLY way they can reach an orgasm so if you both want it to be that way, then don’t resist.
When you do go down on her, don’t rush it. Show her that you really love her by lavishing her genitals with your undivided attention. Enjoy the journey as much as the destination so to speak.
At the start, just tease and lick softly and lovingly. Once she’s focused on that part of her body, increase the tempo. When you notice that her breathing is getting faster and harder or if her legs are becoming taut, move your attention to her clitoris. Tease it by drawing small circles around it with your tongue and then apply more pressure and lick faster.
If she gives any indication at all that she’s really turned on, remember this: DON’T change anything. Keep the tempo of what you’re doing and she’ll reach her orgasm soon enough.
Step 3
If your tongue doesn’t bring her to an immediate orgasm, don’t despair. Don’t forget that your fingers can be put to good use too! Use your index finger to ‘trace’ the outline of her labia. Be sure to touch her gently. This is guaranteed to electrify her body. After this, place your index and middle finger together and then draw circles around her clitoris.
Pay attention to her body (is it in a pleasured, relaxed state or is it pulled taut like a string?) to gauge just how turned on she is. Don’t forget to pay attention to her moans and groans as well.
You can alternate using your tongue and fingers to stimulate her clitoris and just like what’s advised above, if she indicates something that’s really turning her on, just keep doing it! To learn more about other techniques to stimulate her, click here…
Step 4
If clitoral stimulation has not brought on an orgasm yet, then try G-spot stimulation! Assuming that she’s already hot and wet, slowly insert your index and middle finger inside her womanhood, palm up. Once inside, position your fingers to the “11 o’clock”. Slowly try and locate a small bump or swelling (like an engorged clitoris). Once you find this spot, congratulations… you’ve located the elusive G-spot!
Step 5
You can stimulate the G-spot in many ways. You can tap it with your fingers, draw lazy or frenzied circles around it, or flick it wildly like a light switch. If you wish, you can use your thumb to stimulate her clitoris while stimulating her G-spot. This will surely give her an orgasm to be remembered! To learn more, click here…
Great news. You can now shop for all your anal sex product needs at anal-sex-secrets-store.com. We ship worldwide, in plain brown packaging (no one else has to know what you’re buying, right?), the label just says “Shipping Department”.
The navigation is all on one tier at the moment, but a simple search will get you anything you want
To those of you who have been waiting with baited breath for the anal-sex-secrets.com store, you have my apologies for the wait.
My ambition was to integrate a shop right into this blog, but it just wasn’t to be at this point in time, not without sacrificing the service level I want to provide.
You can use the links on the left to go right to a category, but a simple search will serve you better.
The Hitachi Magic Wand, the iconic and legendary best selling vibrator ever. Many thousands, maybe even millions of women have come to love the very powerful and reliable vibrations of it’s soft bulbous head. It can easily deliver such strong orgasms, that many women have literally been woken up to what an orgasm can be through their Hitachi Magic Wand.
But how to use it for anal sex? One fun way to use it is as an accompaniment to anal penetration. This is, you can use the wand’s marvelous vibrations on your pussy and clitoris to help you to really get off powerfully while your partner is either inside of your ass, or just…playing with it.
The combination of the wand on your clitoris, and anal play (especially penetration) is fantastic…if you haven’t played like that yet, it’s definitely something you should try.
You can also use the wand’s round head directly on your ass, and some people do have nice anal orgasms like that, but…there’s a much better way to use it.
Did you know you can use the Hitachi Magic Wand for some nice anal penetration? Oh yeah, and some nice full anal orgasms too. There have been some attachments on the market for awhile, but nothing that was really nice in my opinion. Until now that is. Check these 2 out.
The “G-Whiz”
The “G-Whizzard”
These are the newest attachments for the Hitachi Wand. They’re both made out of pure silicone so they transmit vibrations nicely and are non porous. Both are designed to hit the g-spot just right but they work great for anal penetration as well.
You can’t really tell from the pictures but the “G-Whizzard” is a full inch longer at 6 1/2 inches. The “G-Whiz” came out first, and quickly became a best seller, because of it’s well thought out design and because it transmits the Hitachi’s powerful vibrations so well to the g-spot. The “G-Whizzard” is a more deluxe version with it’s bulbs, slight texturing and length.
It’s not so much a beginner’s anal toy, but if you’re ready for it, you can use the Hitachi’s ‘magic’ to send some powerful waves of pleasure coursing into your ass, maybe even building to some nice anal orgasms…what great fun huh?
Of course a little anal play or penetration whilst using the Hitachi and attachment for some g-spot stimulation can be out of this world too…
The Hitachi wand and both attachments are now in the store under vibrators. Hope you have fun.
So, in order to help you get the most you can out of anal sex and anal play, I’ve decided to create a store right here on anal-sex-secrets.com.
We needed a store that focused on only the best products for anal sex.
I am only going to carry top quality, must have, fun and helpful products. I am here for you, and I will not endorse anything that will not genuinely increase your anal sex pleasure and satisfaction.
All shipping will be handled discretely, in a plain brown box from ‘Illumineros Publishing’. You’ll be able to pay through paypal or credit card.
I will write the best reviews I can to help you get the most out of these products, and to know what products are right for you. I would love to have your feedback/reviews on all of these products as well.
Also, if there are any products you would like me to carry or have questions about, let me know! You can leave a comment here or direct message me on twitter http://twitter.com/analsexsecrets .
On that note, the weekly newsletter is going to be changed to something more like notifications and updates that go out every few days. Every time I review a product, or answer some questions, or have a special sale, etc., I’ll let you know. I think that’s going to be better all around anyway.
I would love your feedback on that too though.
It will take me a few days to upload the products, program in shipping and such, so expect it to be up and running by this weekend!
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The Hitachi Magic Wand, the iconic and legendary best selling vibrator ever. Many thousands, maybe even millions of women have come to love the very powerful and reliable vibrations of it’s soft bulbous head. It can easily deliver such strong orgasms, that many women have literally been woken up to what an orgasm can be through their Hitachi Magic Wand.
