Anal Sex Secrets

One of my readers asked me how she can have orgasms from anal sex if she’s worried about experiencing pain.

This is a great question so, I thought I would answer part of this for everyone.

Now assuming you’re using plenty of lube, and assuming you’re with a partner you can trust, and assuming you’re taking it slow enough for your body to adjust to it…

Thinking about pain with regard to anal sex is a great example of a self fulfilling prophesy. Another way of putting it is you are creating your own reality.

Remember any pain from anal sex is usually caused from tension in the anus. If you tense up, it’s not going to be comfortable. If you relax, it’s great…

The process goes something like this: You got afraid it was going to hurt, so you constricted the muscles around your anus, which made it tight, which made it hurt. So you really kind of created the pain.

Here’s what you need to do to to turn this around and make anal sex pain free and purely pleasurable, to create the pleasure: You let go of the fear, (surrender), and so you relax, and also become more aroused and in the moment, both of which cause your anus to be much looser, and so there’s no pain. Just anal sex pleasure.

Part of the great pleasure of anal sex is that it teaches you how to let go, to relax and surrender to the moment. Which make all sex better not just anal sex. In fact, it would make your whole life better!

One more reason to enrich our sex lives with anal sex!