This recipe is not my creation, I learned it from the book “Anal Sex for Couples” by Strong & Gammon, which by the way, I highly recommend, it’s a treasure trove.

Since trying this home made lube it’s easily become my favorite anal sex lube, you’re going to love it.

Since I know you’re eager for the how to, I’ll describe how to make it, then go over the benefits and drawbacks at the end.

What you’ll need.

Ingredients :

• Vaseline (Note * the Vaseline brand is preferred over generic brands, but there’s not a dramatic difference)
• Baby oil (Important Note * make sure the baby oil is mineral based, some generic brands are not)

Containers:

A Pyrex measuring cup.  Pyrex is made to withstand heat (you’re going to heat the mixture), and the measuring graduations are going to come in handy.

Containers to put the finished product into, wide mouth and short is best.  I prefer cleaned out glass jars with tight sealing lids.

What you do.

Place two ounces (approx) into the Pyrex measuring cup and heat in the microwave it until it turns to liquid.  (Note: In place of using a microwave, you can place the Pyrex cup into a pot of water and boil the water). Now add one ounce of baby oil and heat again.  You want to heat it until it is liquid enough to stir.  The ideal proportions are about 2/3′s Vaseline to 1/3 baby oil.

Once the mixture cools close to room temperature, test with your fingers.  Ideally it should be very slick, but still thick enough that it will not run off your fingers.  If it’s too runny, just add some Vaseline and heat and remix, and vise versa if it’s too thick.

The benefits.

This homemade lube is practically perfect.  When made right it’s just the perfect consistency, extremely slick and doesn’t drip.

It’s cheaper than store bought anal lubes.

I think it’s much better for your body, since pre-made lubes for the most part are filled with exotic complex chemicals that can’t be healthy for your sensitive body parts.

I’ve found it seems it will not wear off, it stays on keeps your anal play slippery for as long as you’d want it to.

You can adjust it to make it just the right consistency for your desires.

Draw backs.

You can’t  use it with condoms, it will shred them. (most condoms anyway, I haven’t experimented with non-latex)

There you have it, perhaps the perfect recipe to make your very own home made anal lube!

Anal sex is just one of those things: she either loves it, or she hates it. There is very little in between. Most women have tried it at some point, and a fair few of them will never dare again despite their hankering to be one of the “lucky ones” who love anal sex. The reason for this avoidance is clear: pain. If there was no pain, there was probably pleasure. Hence, love or hate.

It is true, however, that while you’re trying to “get it right” there are likely to be some painful moments, practice makes perfect and it’s the ability to maneuver oneself and try different styles that allows anal sex to be pleasurable.

We’ve decided to let you in on what women love and hate about anal sex so you can enter the situation sufficiently informed and ready to rock her world.

The Allure of Anal Sex

For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty and it provides some variety to normal sex. Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away: The taboo status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. Once tried, however, anal sex can quickly lose its appeal for women (and some men). Here we will discuss some of the reasons why women love and hate anal sex.

Why Does She Love Anal Sex?

Let’s start with the positives:

Because anal sex feels good

Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It’s different in sensation and it doesn’t feel like anything else she may have felt before — it’s deep inside, it’s not her clitoris and not her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.

Because anal sex is naughty

People love to be a little bit naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you can do completely privately, and nobody will ever know you were naughty except you and your partner — which is part of the fun. It is also often a “first time for everything” type of activity which can also be nice — doing something you’ve never done before, ever.

Why Does She Hate Anal Sex?

Now for what goes wrong:

Because anal sex hurts

Anal sex is not easy to master when you haven’t done it before. For a man it may seem straight forward — in, out — but it isn’t this simple. Women hate anal sex primarily because it hurts. It can cause cold sweats, shivers, extreme agony, and a massive chemical release into the blood stream that causes pain. This is highly unpleasant, but may be endured because A) She wants to like it; and B) She wants you to like it.

If you’re not very careful, if you don’t warm her up properly, if you don’t go slowly enough, you will probably hurt her. This really minimizes your chances for trying anal sex again. Do your best every time and you have at least a fighting chance at having another go.

Because she’s worried about a mess

Anal sex is obviously a hot spot for mess. The idea that you could penetrate her butt and come out in a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for her before it’s even happened, and for this reason she may avoid anal sex altogether. Women spend so much time making themselves look and smell beautiful that to have something ruin her hard work can be mildly devastating. Worrying about mess can be alleviated by using an anal douche before engaging in any anal play. Try taking a shower together too, and make sure her bowels are emptied at least an hour before starting.

Important Facts About Anal Sex

Lubricant is essential

The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant, so it is imperative that you use a good quality lubricant in all your anal adventures. It is advisable to use a silicon-based lubricant because they tend to last longer and don’t dry up very quickly like some water-based lubricants do. Don’t use sticky petroleum-based products like Vaseline, as they clog up the walls of the rectum and are much too sticky.

Tease Her

It is very important that she is very turned on before you even go near her butt. When she’s turned on, her body is much more open to you than if she is only mildly turned on. She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. Then, when you start to touch her closer to her anus, she will respond with moans and groans instead of a tense grimace. Rub her body all over with oils, relax her, love her, adore her, and caress her. Get her to the point where she is begging you for it, and do this without putting a single thing in her — tease, tease, tease. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools we have — use it to your advantage.

Condoms and hygiene

Disease can be passed through unprotected sex — this includes anal sex. The wall of the rectum is very thin and permeable. However, using condoms can be better for both partners, for other reasons. Women may not like to have a bottom full of semen, which quite frankly is a fair call. After the disruptions of anal sex, the semen mixes with the contents of the rectum and it can get a little “upset” in there. Using a condom avoids this trouble.

Condoms may also protect the penis from any stray fecal matter, though this is generally not a problem, and if it does occur can be washed off easily with no harm done. Men may like to wear a condom so they last a bit longer — the condom desensitizes the penis somewhat, and allows for longer lovemaking.

What Not to Do

Do not ever put your penis into a woman’s body without her express permission. Do not treat her body like a scoring device. She is not an object for you to ejaculate in or on, and if she is kind enough to share her beautiful butt with you, treat it with respect and be happy you were allowed close enough to breathe her in at all. Don’t ejaculate inside of her if requested not to. Don’t slam, jackhammer or be forceful either.

What to Always Do

Always use lube. Always wear a condom if requested to, without acting like a baby. Do as you are asked at all times — anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you.

Gender presumptions and anal sex

When a heterosexual couple thinks of anal sex, it is generally man-in-woman anal sex. To get a good understanding of what it’s like — and how to improve your performance — it is necessary and helpful for you to open your mind to the possibility that anal sex is not something that only you do to your female lover, but something that you could do to each other.

Scared yet? Don’t be. If it’s good for the goose, it’s good for the gander. Anal sex takes a lot of practice to perfect, and experimenting with one another is a fantastic way to deepen your connection and enhance your sex life and relationship. It does not have to involve sex toys. You can use fingers, tongues, oils, lubes, and any number of other things. Experiment, and let your own body be loved. It will pay off.

Backdoor Shenanigans

Anal sex is many things to many people. Do it right, and you’ll get to do it again. Do it wrong, and you may be doomed forever. Well, probably not forever but until she forgets how bad it was the first time around.

There are hundreds of anal sex guides online — explicit instructions on how to do it right. If you read at least a dozen of them, you’ll probably have a good idea about how to start off. The best piece of advice we can give you is to make sure she is hot for it before you start. Then you really can’t lose.

Re-posted with generous permission from Mauh.com

We just couldn’t have it, that’s what it would be!   A good lubricant is an absolute must with anal sex.

So here are the three best anal lubes.

Astroglide, Astroglide Gel, Astroglide Silicone and Astroglide Anal Shooters.

I’ve used astroglide for years for anal sex.  Developed by NASA for space missions, it’s sooo nice and slippery and lasts a very long time.  Some people find it a little thin for anal sex, but I’ve never found that to be a problem.  And that’s easily solved by using Astroglide Gel, which of course is a thicker gel like version.  And the Anal Shooters of course were made just for anal sex. What they are is a little one use applicator, to put the lube right into the anus.  How cool is that huh?  One applicator and you’re ready for the whole night :)

There are four version of Astroglide:

• Original water based.  On the thin side, and containing glycerin.  The original is what got Astroglide it’s many adoring fans
• Water-based glycerin free.  The same as the original but without the glycerin.  I can’t tell the difference by feel.
• Astroglide Gel.  Formulated thicker for anal pleasure, this was my anal sex lube of choice for more than a year, and still a favorite.
• Silicone.  The silicone version of Astroglide is about the same thickness as original but, being silicone based, far outlasts it’s water based counterpart.  This gives you the advantage of not having to stop the action to re-apply.  Yo just can’t use it with silicone toys :(

Maximus

Maximus is a newer thick lube made (as far as I know) just for anal sex.  From the same makers of Liquid Silk.  Although newer it already has many devoted fans allready.  It’s comparable to Astroglide gel, it’s really slippery, lasts a very long time without getting sticky.  Also latex safe, and glycerin free like Astroglide.

Slippery Stuff Gel

This is the newest one I have tried. In fact, my lady and I just gave it a go this last weekend, and is definitely a winner.  In fact, it’s awesome for anal sex.  Thick enough to stay on and not drip, and very slick.  It’s also glycerin free and tests have supposedly shown it to have just the right ph for anal sex. The only drawback is it dries relatively quickly being water based (though a little saliva, or other body juices keep it going).  I highly recommend it.

Though there are many more, Astroglide and Maximus are easily the two best in my opinion.

I haven’t tried them all, partly since I started making my own some time ago.  Time permitting, I’ll describe how to do that tomorrow.

A couple others that are also good are:

Adam and Eve Anal Lube

System JO Anal Lube (haven’t tried this one, though I hear it’s very good).

So there you have it, the three best anal lubes to help you in your anal sex adventures.

As always,

To your pleasure.

So there you are having vaginal sex, both you and your girlfriend are into it, and then you suddenly try to slide it into her ass.

With no warning like that, it’s probably going to be shocking and painful for her.  So not only did you send her the message that anal sex hurts, she’s not going to trust you as much.

And that’s the biggest key to getting her to enjoy having anal sex with you, trust.

Now how is it going to go down next time you try to get her to have anal sex with you?  I guarantee it’s going to be harder.

Mistake #2  -  Pressuring Her

She needs to know and feel that you love sex with her in all it’s forms.  That she’s a marvelous lover who keeps you satisfied.  If you continually try to pressure her into anal sex, you send the message “I’m not satisfied, I need something else”.

This will only create resistance in her.

Instead, your goal is to make her want it to much that she’s asking you for anal sex.  Doesn’t that sound better?

I’ll explain how to do that in a future post.

Mistake #3  -  No Foreplay

Just like her pussy here.

The more aroused she is, the wetter her pussy gets, and the more her pussy is ready for your cock.

It’s the same with her ass.  It doesn’t get wet, but it does get excited, more receptive to being touched, caressed and even penetrated.

The more foreplay, the better your chances of anal sex and the better it will be.

Mistake #4  -  Forcing It In

Most guys get too excited.  They shove it in too far too quickly.

This doesn’t feel good to her.

You’ve got to be gentle.  Once you do get to the point where she’s ready to have your cock in her ass, give it too her a tiny bit at a time.  Once you’re in a little bit, stop.  Give her (and her ass) time to adjust to the fullness and accept that much of your cock before giving her a little more.

Mistake #5  -  Being Too Rough

Unless she’s a seasoned pro, there’s almost no chance she’s going to like her ass treated roughly.

The anus and rectal walls are very thin, and much more delicate than the vagina.  They easily tear and abrade. You’ve got to use tons of lube, and always, always be gentle.

So take your time, listen to her.  Pay attention to her body. Be gentle and be patient.

I hope you found this helpful.

There is a lot I have to say about this, but I think you’ll find the following approach to be a hell of a lot of fun, and I guarantee it works.

What you want to do is “tie” your lover’s orgasms to the sensation, and the idea, of being anally penetrated and stimulated.   In hypnosis and NLP this process is called “anchoring”.  You get your lover’s (or your own) body to connect anal stimulation and or penetration to the state of orgasm.

So here’s what you do.  First off, you don’t want to be stimulating your lover’s ass directly (especially penetration) when she or he is not allready really aroused.  Get her aroused first, wether that means good old fashioned lovemaking, or oral sex, or, touching, teasing, fantasy, all of the above or whatever.  The longer the better, really build it up.

When she’s really hot, really worked up and maybe 3/4 of the way towards orgasm, only then start to tease her ass.  Save the penetration though.

Keep building her arousal while you tease her ass on the outside with your fingers, a toy or whatever feels the most fun.  And then when she’s right about to come, only then penetrate her (the first few times you do this, you probably only want to penetrate her a tiny bit, very shallow).

If you do this consistently, (and this is key) every time you have sex, she can start to come from anal penetration alone in as little as a couple of days to a couple of weeks, though it’s possible for it to take longer.

Don’t become goal oriented though.  Enjoy the process, be absorbed in  every moment.

This works equally well for men as well as women by the way.

As always, to your pleasure.